| back to the articles' index page from www.sextreatment.com by Dorothy C. Hayden, LCSW My therapeutic stance is one of neutrality. Some people want to stop certain behaviors, other to modify them, or others may seek to integrate them more fully into their lives. What's taken is the obsessive pre-occupation, the shame, the self-blame, the confusion; and the "split". What's given is a therapeutic relationship with a seasoned and well-trained psychotherapist. What occurs within that relationship? Some people have never in their lives talked to anyone about what they cherish and fear most. Keeping such a large part of you completely to yourself over the course of many years is a breeding ground for shame, guilt and confusion. Therapy lets light in through engaging in a non-judgmental, empathic, safe process. The therapeutic relationship is a sort of laboratory that examines the unconscious belief systems that used to help you psychologically survive early-life dysfunctional attachments. Once these patterns are uncovered and understood, you will have the opportunity, through a variety of therapeutic interventions, to seek freedom. Rather than feeling enslaved by your desires, now you are in the driver's seat. You are riding the horse — the horse is no longer riding you. The ability to make choices empowers your sense of self and enhances self-esteem. Therapy is an opportunity to have a "corrective" experience with a person that will, in the long run, make you less afraid of real intimacy with a real person and will help you stop spending so much wasted time in the "erotic haze" which is based exclusively on fantasy. Compulsiveness and obsessive pre-occupation gradually diminish as together we discover and rework the irrational belief systems that have held you back from experiencing a life filled with choice, adventure, passion and joy. Dorothy's Bio Dorothy C, Hayden, LCSW, has been in private practice for 15 years, specializing in substance abuse, sexual addiction and in the treatment of Adult ADD. She became interested in studying/treating ADD when, 10 years ago, she realized that more than half of her private patients with compulsive, self-defeating behaviors had ADD. Dorothy has been interviewed extensively in major publications. She recently was interviewed on an HBO documentary. In addition, she has been interviewed on "20/20" as an expert on cybersex addiction. Ms. Hayden received her M.S.W. from New York University, her MBA from Baruch College, her psychoanalytic training at the Post Graduate Center for Mental Health and the Object Relations Institute. In 1992, she was awarded the Credentialed Alcoholism Counselor (CAC) certificate from the State of New York. Her articles about deviant sexuality appear on numerous sites throughout the world. She is a certified NLP practitioner, a certified hypnotherapist, and a certified EMDR practitioner. In addition, she studied Rational/Emotive Therapy with Albert Ellis. She is a member of CHADD, National Attention Deficit Disorder Association (ADDA), and Manhattan ADD support groups. With convenient locations is the East Village and Murray Hill, Ms. Hayden also works extensively on the phone. Fee range is negotiable, starting at $75.00 to $150.00 per hour. Dorothy Hayden, LCSW New York, NY www.sextreatment.com E-mail:dhayden@nyc.rr.com back to the articles' index page
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